New Year’s Resolutions. Love ‘em or hate ‘em, as we begin 2015 we’re encouraged to take some time to have a good look in the mirror and decide what we’re going to change about our lives in the eternal quest for self improvement. Urgh.
Honestly, to me this just sounds like setting myself up for failure. Yes, I most definitely could do with a little ‘improvement’ – by no stretch of the imagination am I perfect, either as an individual or as a parent. Thinking about it, I actually have quite high resolution potential. I could resolve to be tidier, lose weight, work on my patience or even learn not to sweat the small stuff but, as I’ve proven to myself time and time again, come February (or most certainly March) the novelty will have worn off and I’ll have resorted to type – or at least a family sized bag of crisps.
Nevertheless, I’d at least like to try and aim for the elusive state of ‘self improvement’. I would just like it to be realistic and useful. One of my biggest flaws (though I would also argue it’s often a positive) is that I have pretty high expectations of myself and the world at large. I like things to be the absolute best they can be and honestly, it’s a bit exhausting. I’m loath to say I’m a ‘perfectionist’ because I don’t think a true perfectionist would have an ironing pile the size of mine, but yes, I do have exceptionally high standards (for things other than housework).
So this year, instead of a practical resolution, I’m going to try and adopt a new approach to life. Something that will be challenging because it does not come naturally at all. A wise man once told me, ‘Sometimes ‘good’ is good enough’ and in 2015 this is going to be how I approach things (well, ok, most things).
I’m going to give myself permission to stop aiming for perfection 100% of the time. I’m going to shake it off if I find I can’t be everything to everyone all of the time. And I’m definitely going to learn to breathe a bit more slowly because …
Most definitely words to live by.
What are your resolutions for the New Year?